How to Find Your Kinks and Fetishes
When it comes to finding your kinks, fetishes and what turns you on in general, it’s all about experimentation. You’ve got to try lots of different combinations before you’ll find what skeets your jizz.
Normally, when you’re exploring things, you go outside yourself but, in this case, you need to look inside. The one thing you need to know about kinks is that they're all in your head. That means, in order to find them, you've got to get all inception in this bitch.
Deep within the recesses of your mind lives everything you’ve ever needed to know about your kinks and fetishes. Your job – if you choose to accept it – is to filter through all the random crap you’ve eroticized to find the meat of your kink. Take some time and reexamine all those moments in which you felt that particular erotic spark. In these memories is where you’ll find your kink… or fetish.
Once you’ve found a memory or two that get you going, you’re going to need to scour these memories in order to pinpoint what it is driving your genitals wild. Consider the sights, sounds, smells, feelings, situation, people, colors, lighting, etc. You could be kinking on literally anything and everything in that memory. Luckily, you’ve got the perfect tool to help you figure it all out: your hand.
By “hand” I’m obviously talking about masturbating. Think of it like a litmus test for your sex drive. If your kink memory is hot enough to make you cum, it’s a safe bet that you might enjoy trying it out in real life. Masturbation also allows you to get crazy horned up and loosened the hell up, which will let you explore truths about yourself and your sexuality that you may have never even considered.
Once you’ve gotten to this point in your kink discovery, it’s all about plug and play. Keep plugging away and keep playing with yourself (and others) until you find something you really enjoy. Yes, finding your kinks is that easy… not.
For most people, kinks and fetishes are discovered by accident. You’re just sitting there watching Hulk throw around Loki in “The Avengers” and the next thing you know, you’re a green strongman fetishist. Unfortunately, not everyone experiences these sexual awakenings; some people go their entire lives without ever finding their kink or fetish and that's perfectly fine.
Remember, I said, “kinks and fetishes are like HPV and Herpes, you should probably assume that everybody has one or both.” The keyword is “probably.” If you just can’t find your kink, you may not have actually one or it could be harder to find than Carmen Sandiego. Either way, don’t stress yourself out. Sex is supposed to be fun. If you relax and let the bodily fluids flow, you may find your kink or you have a bunch of orgasms while looking. That’s the definition of a win-win.
Growing up an only child, I always wanted a Clifford the Big Red Dog-sized canine companion. Sadly, despite my best efforts, I entered into adulthood having unsuccessfully petitioned my mother for such a beast. At 26, however, I became the owner of a 5-foot-10-inch, 240-pound human pup by the name of Bubby.
Although I’ve always considered myself to be closer to vanilla on the kink spectrum, I’ve recently found myself being one kinky motherfucker. It started with a little roughness and led into a sadistic awakening. Now, a little puppy play has led into a budding full-time D/s relationship, and I am super excited.
Bottom line: While Fifty Shades of Grey Hard Limits Bed Restraint Kit isn’t a Christian Grey-type luxury item, it is wholly capable for almost every beginner restraint’s needs. With its high-quality, just-right pricing and simple, everyday kink styling, it should be right at home in your starter playroom.
I recently started dating a poly and kinky woman (T). She is married to her Dominant. They also have a live-in BDSM slave who is owned and collared like myself, but my relationship with T isn’t kinky. In fact, we’re careful to keep our relationship deliberately vanilla. Well, as vanilla as strap-ons and hair pulling can be. Why? Because of boundaries, my darling readers.
This phrase has become a bit of a joke within the kink community, based on individuals making this (grammatically incorrect) statement on kinky social networking sites. The profile where you will find this short, defiant statement will likely also be filled with other “twue” and inflexible declarations about what an awesome Dominate they are.
Proper spelling and grammar aren't required to be a good dominant but it does help! There are definitely more important things and they all come from the inside out.
Initially, I was taken aback by the question, “what does it mean to be a good submissive?” It is a very subjective question and you will get a million different answers from Dominants and submissives alike. So, let me preface this article by saying there is no one way to be a “good” submissive. However, there are steps one can take to ensure the growth and quality of your identity and relationships.
I recently did a Google Hangout interview with the fat femme lesbians of Lesbian Curves: Courtney Trouble, Kitty Stryker, Betty Blac and Cinnamon Maxine. Despite some major sleepiness on my part – we didn’t start recording until 1:36am ET – we had a good fucking time.
In this exclusive interview got to talk about Lesbian Curves 2: Hard Femme, mommy fetishes and Courtney Trouble’s love for April Flores. Betty Blac and Kit
ty Stryker got to discuss what it was like shooting with each other and the differences between Lesbian Curves and Lesbian Curves 2. We also got some juicy inside details on the already-in-production Lesbian Curves 3 from Courtney and Cinnamon soon after shooting the first scene, which stars Cinnamon Maxine and porn legend Syd Blakovich.
Of course, the best thing about rope bondage is the end result. Seeing a lover's body crisscrossed with rope is so-fucking-hot. In my mind, there is nothing more beautiful than a man unburdened of his strength, rendered helpless, bent and bound according to my wishes. Nothing is hotter than a man who is eager to give me control, and nothing turns me on quite like taking it.
When it comes to finding your kinks, fetishes and what turns you on in general, it’s all about experimentation. You’ve got to try lots of different combinations before you’ll find what skeets your jizz.
Normally, when you’re exploring things, you go outside yourself but, in this case, you need to look inside. The one thing you need to know about kinks is that they're all in your head. That means, in order to find them, you've got to get all inception in this bitch.
Whether you’re a dom who’s force feminizing your pretty little sub bitch or a guy who just likes to feel soft and feminine, you know how hard it is to find lingerie that fits a guy’s body. Well, I just stumbled across a store that fixes that problem. HommeMystere is an online store that specializes in men’s hosiery and lingerie for the pretty girl in every man.
The 4th of July is a time to celebrate independence and freedom. What better way to do that than to watch three women shoot fireworks out of their pretty pink assholes? In case you’re wondering: yes, fireworks fetish is a real thing. Some people find the pyrotechnics and loud booms to be just the thing to get their pussies wet.
You love your men tied up in bondage rope, gagged and vulnerable to your every whim? Yeah, so do we. There’s something incredibly sexy about watching your pitiful male sub writhe around helplessly while bound in intricate ropes and knots. The way the ropes keep him so still and vulnerable is enough to warrant a spanking. So, today, we’ve got a collection of pics and gifs of male submissives tied up and ready for their master's use. Enjoy.
You love your women tied up in bondage rope, gagged and vulnerable to your every whim? Yeah, so do we. There’s something incredibly sexy about watching your sexy sub writhe around helplessly while bound in intricate ropes and knots. So, today, we’ve got a collection of pics and gifs of hot chicks tied up and ready for you. Enjoy.
Welcome to Kink Month on LTASEX. This month, we’re going to be taking some time to appreciate and accentuate all those wonderful kinks and fetishes that make sex so much fun. We’ll be talking about kink, fetish, feet, legs, body hair, stockings, heels, ropes, chains and more body fluids than you can probably think of. We’ll also have some awesome guest posts and interviews from and with kinksters from all-over the sex bloggosphere. It's going to be sexy, slutty and fun, as always. ;)
