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Whenever I go too long with having cumming my testicles start to ache, really bad. I’ve talked to a few of my friends and they don’t know what I’m talking about. Any idea or advice?
M/18/Hetero
I think cigarettes are sexy. Not the cigarette itself, but the smell of cigarette smoke. Whenever I’m with a guy who smokes I get really turned on, but there’s a problem. I have asthma and if I’m ever around a guy soon after he’s smoked, I have a hard time breathing. How can I balance my love of that sexy smoky smell with the desire not to die? Lol
F/22/Hetero-flexible
I’m a white guy who likes girls of races. But, other than white girls, I don’t have any luck. I am kinda dorky looking and tend to live on the more pale side of life. But, does that mean that I’ll never be able to get my swirl on?
M/19/Hetero
At this point you’re probably tired of reading about fall. Yeah the leaves are beautiful, sure the food is amazing, and yes, sweaters are the most dope of all the seasonal trends, but that’s all so boring. Let’s be honest, sweaters are cool, but the best part of fall happens when the clothes come off. Get your mind into the gutter, I’m talking about cuddling!
Often cuddling gets a bad rap as something that is rather unsexy. People often connect it with hippies, those of the abstinence only sect, and clingy girlfriends. But I am here to tell you that, if you let it, cuddling can be the sexiest part of your physical affections. Lower that eyebrow and put on your softest and most comfortable pajamas, because cuddling is damn sexy.
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My boyfriend keeps asking me to do stuff with his butt. He started by asking me to put my finger up his butt while I gave him a blowjob. Then he wanted to wear a butt plug while we had sex. Now he wants me to put on a strap on dildo and fuck him. I don’t like doing any of it, I get really grossed out, but I want to satisfy him. What should I do?
Butt Hurt
I’m unsatisfied in my sex life. I feel like my partner is being selfish, we only ever do and try the things he wants. I have things that I want to try to but he downplays them. This has been going on for most of our relationship and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to dump him but I need to have my needs met.
- He About To Lose Me
Well the first thing you do is dump the motherfucker. The second thing is to find someone who isn’t a manipulative, selfish asshole. Set your boundaries from the beginning and make sure that your wants and desires don’t get minimized for his selfishness. However, you did mention that you don’t want to dump him so I will try to help you with that.
For your romantic quandary, I present…
Everyone has their own unique brand of flirting. Some like to choose the coy approach others are more aggressive and like to seek and destroy (the pussy). Often these different styles are completely incompatible. I learned this lesson very recently when I met a guy whose slick talkin’ Detroit swag collided my calm and reserved suburban anti-swag.
It was an interesting situation, I thought he was quite sexy, but didn’t really let on. He thought I was sexy and that was his only topic of conversation. My technique made him think that I wasn’t into him. His technique made me think all he wanted was sex, which is fine but when talking I generally like something with a bit more substance. Sure, I thought his whole shtick was charming in a hood Rupert Everett sort of way, but after two days of awkwardly dancing around the topic, I was ready to walk away. Then I figured, “what would I lose by expressing what I’m thinking?” So, I did.
Here’s the conversation verbatim:
